There has never been greater awareness amongst people on mental health concerns. Also, it seems that no one wonders at the fact that we hardly think about our physical and mental well-being until something really ‘wrong’ happens to us i.e. when we feel low, restless or unable to handle things. However, we should realize that it is nobody, but we ourselves owe the responsibility to our mental well-being. And therefore, it becomes important to keep in mind that small mental health concerns can easily become big ones if overlooked.
Proper ‘mental well-being’ implies knowing to the best of our knowledge, how we think or feel.
So, initially, it is important to understand the source of our thoughts and feelings. When it is done, we can easily trace the unhelpful bits, the bits that are holding us back or contributing to such practices which are unhealthy and start to scrape them away. Mentioned below are the five things that all of us should be doing regularly to ensure a sound mental health:
Never consider anything ‘good’ or ‘bad’ – switch to a more precise definition
We should abstain from labelling anything as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ as the words usually have no meaning whatsoever. So always try labelling things or habits as ‘helpful’ if they help in whatever objectives you have targeted for yourself (be it personal or professional) and ‘unhelpful’ as those which don’t.
This enables you to think through why something can be ‘helpful’ or not, despite the fact that it is more of a mental task. In addition, it also mirrors your mental state-of-being.
Accept that it is not possible to have complete control over anything
Another big misapprehension is our control over results – whether it is for us or for others – individually we have control over nothing. So rather than becoming frustrated when you see things going beyond your control or not turning out the way you wished, understand how liberating it is to realize that results are largely beyond your control.
Embrace all your emotions – even the dreadful ones
Once you have eliminated ‘good’ and ‘bad’, learn to embrace all your emotions. Some of them will prove helpful (such as compassion) and some will not (such as anger). However, supportive or unsupportive your emotions may be, they belong to you. Just be aware of the unsupportive feelings and do away with them gently, but firmly.
Tell yourself that change is the only thing which is constant
Permanence is perhaps our biggest illusion. Yet we spend so much time in thinking that some things will remain the same forever and become upset when we are faced with the truth. So don’t accept anything as impermanent, but as something which is dynamic, developing, growing and exploring. Embrace changes which will require a lot less mental and emotional effort than trying holding on to illusions.
Watch against tolerating others irrational behaviour
An outrageous behaviour which we totally condemn in strangers; we often forgive in our friends. So it becomes important for us to understand how our mind behaves and how behavioural standards are in fact unbelievably flexible.