By Dr. Ms. P. Madhurima Reddy, Psychology
The years of adolescence can be full of ups and downs, with concerns related to puberty and pressures from peer groups. Then if we add up the fascination and use of electronic gadgets along with social media, where the exchange of messages keep on taking place from time to time, things tend to get even more tricky. They often feel as if they have got stuck between wanting independence and the requirement for proper guidance.
There are certain tips related to adolescent counselling, which can prove to be extremely effective. They include:
Negative Self-Talk Should Be Replaced:
There are a number of times when all those teenagers, who struggle with mental health disorders, come across negative thoughts in their minds. Instead of taking a tough situation as a challenge, they already
start believing that they will fail. This is where counselling can come into play and can turn out to be very effective in making teenagers get out of the tricky situations. One technique, which parents can use is to help them change their negative thoughts into positive ones. Talk to them, list all their thoughts out and change all their negative feelings into positive and encouraging thoughts.
There is another technique, which many therapists who work with adolescents, make use of is to encourage their clients to try out group counselling. As a group counsellor, the techniques include in making teens realize that they are not alone in their problems. Hence, the therapists allow teens to share each other's problems and thus help each other out.
Conversations between peers tend to be free and frank, thus manage to discuss almost everything under the sun.
Keep Repeating Information Through Questions:
Counsellors can repeat information that tends to sound irritating as well as unreasonable towards a teen in the form of a question. What happens is, when a counsellor puts forward a question, many teenagers
think about the kind of statement they just made and to them, it starts sounding different, as it comes from someone else.
In these situations, counsellors are not basically objecting to what the adolescent said. Rather, they are only following up with questions.
Not All Arguments Are Bad But Judging Is:
As a counsellor, it is important to make children in the adolescent stage understand that not all kinds of arguments are bad. The right kind of arguments teaches children to be good listeners, develop skills to reason
things out and also learn to compromise. On the other hand, counsellors must make children understand that passing judgements is not a good thing.
Each and every individual is born with some kind of qualities or the other. What one can do, the second child may not do that in a similar manner but he or she might excel in some other activity. So, one should not judge each other.