By Dr. Akshata Bhat, Psychiatry
Getting angry is a totally healthy emotion. However, it gets unhealthy when a person cannot control his anger. It starts affecting one’s health, relationships, and state of mind. Anger is an emotion to convey that someone is upset or unhappy about something. It is a reaction to a situation which is upsetting. So, there is no harm in expressing emotion, but it should be to a certain extent. Regular anger explosion hurts the person and the people around.
Symptoms of Anger Related Problems
- Heart palpitations or tightening of the chest
- Increased blood pressure
- Pressure on the head or sinus cavities
How Does Anger Management Help?
There is a misconception about anger management that it teaches to suppress anger. Not getting angry ever is not the desired goal. The real goal is to understand the reason behind the anger and convey it in a healthy way. Understanding oneself better and knowing what triggers a person and managing those feelings.
Anger management is a long process. It is an art which requires mastery. It comes with regular practice. The benefits of anger management are huge. It improves relationships and a person learns how to express his feelings in a healthy manner.
When Is the Right Time to Take Anger Management?
There are a few warning signs to know that someone requires anger management. Everyone should keep an eye on these signs:
- Problem in Compromising: It becomes difficult for a person with anger issues to understand other’s perspective. And also, despite understanding others’ point of view, they get loud. They treat compromising as a defeat, hence they never agree to it.
- Difficulty in Expressing Emotions: People often confuse not expressing their emotion and being strong as one thing. There is no pride in being a person who finds it difficult to express their emotion. Instead, they try to cover it with anger.
- Fragile Ego: If a person has anger issues, it is most likely that he has a fragile ego. A fragile ego doesn’t let a person get someone else’s point of view. And, works as a fuel in the argument.
- Body Signs: The body starts to react differently if someone has an anger issue. For example, knots start to form in the stomach, shoulders get tense, jaw clenches, a person starts to pace, heart starts pounding, etc.
Tips to Control Anger:
These are a few tips which can be followed. If someone recognizes their anger issues and wants to work on it, here are some tips that should be followed:
- Exercise: If someone realizes that they are about to explode due to anger, a quick walk will help. A walk around the block or in a park will help in realizing the pent-up anger.
- Deep Breaths: Taking a few deep breaths helps in realizing the tension. The idea is to take as much fresh air into the lungs as possible. It helps in calming down the anger.
- Massage: Tension generally builds on the shoulders and starts stretching them. A gentle massage of the neck and scalp helps in releasing the build-up tension.
Getting extra angry about normal things may cause many problems. This is why a person notices any symptoms and behavioral or emotional changes, so it is advisable to consult a counsel. He will suggest anger management tips. However, one must follow the instructions to overcome anger issues.