By Dr. Amit Nale, Sexology
It is often said that the human body is the best work of art. If one looks at nature and takes inspiration from it, it would be learned that the males in all the species woo females, and it is the female who chooses her suitor. Be it a little bird chirping or a beautiful peacock showing off its feathers, it is all to attract a potential female mate for the propagation of genes. Such behavior is no different in the human race too. The need for intimacy is also ageless.
Women behave differently according to their age group due to the play of hormones. Generally, conditions like diabetes, hypertension, cardiovascular diseases, and psychological issues are associated with aging. Sexuality, as a matter of fact, is never celebrated with respect to aging. However, in actual, the sex drive in males and females does not totally diminish with age. It only manifests into a number of forms leading to an erroneous interpretation of the same.
Sex and Physiology:
It is said that the brain is the body’s most important sex organ. However, physiological well-being is of the utmost importance to fully experience and enjoy the pleasure of sex. Functional sex organs, strong sex drive, adequate hormone levels, and freedom from poor health conditions all come along ensuring a wholesome experience. Issues related to self-esteem, stress, anxiety, negative past experiences, rigorous lifestyle demands, loss of loved ones, and relationship conflicts can weigh down the person heavily. It should be noted that the midlife crisis is as real as these factors, along with natural physiological changes, lead to an increased vulnerability to sexual problems.
Sex and Aging:
As women age, they have fewer thoughts and fantasies related to sex. Vaginal lubrication is also reduced, and so does sexual satisfaction as per multiple pieces of research. It is mostly attributed to the availability of an interested partner. The declining estrogen levels affect sexuality. It can cause considerable discomfort during intercourse.
While young women can be sexually aroused through foreplay which includes touching, kissing, eroticism, role play, and clitoral stimulation, such is not the case as they age. Women’s sensitivity to touch and vascular responsiveness diminishes with age. It leads to less genital response and delayed orgasm. Also, there is a considerable reduction in vaginal secretions leading to a longer duration for adequate lubrication.
Also, when women cross the age of forty, the duration of orgasm is considerably reduced. Moreover, sometimes the once pleasurable and rhythmic contractions of the uterus become painful with age. Another possibility is very mild contractions making them unsure if actually orgasm is achieved or not. It is recommended by experts for older women to link sex to love and positive emotions for making it pleasurable.
Tips and Tricks About How to Sexually Satisfy Women in the ’60s and ’70s:
There are a lot of hormonal changes take place in the body of women between their ‘40s and ‘50s. For most of the women, it is the most crucial time as they are reaching towards the menopause. Most people think that menopause can also pause the healthy and satisfying sex life. Women can lubricate after menopause. However, it takes longer time and requires more arousal.
One should focus on the Replens and foreplay to replace the vaginal moisture. Many women think lubrication makes sex more pleasurable and comfortable. Also, it makes the vagina wetter.
After the ‘60s and ‘70s, the pelvic area of the women gets weak, performing a few exercises will help in such cases.
The best way to build a healthy and satisfying sex life during this age is to have a conversation with the partner about how they like to be touched, kissed, sucked, prefer position, penetrated, etc. Also, make her feel comfortable and confident to engage in sexual activities at this age.
Sex and the Society:
The lower levels of sexual activity and desire in older women are strongly interlinked with the associated societal feedback and apathy to the sexual needs of older women. Better sexual well-being can be ensured for older women by changing the attitude of the society at large towards aging and acceptance and acknowledgment of their sexual expression.
For younger women, sexual drive and pleasure come easy and quick. Sex life can be very exciting for them. But for older women, a number of physiological factors associated lead to a lesser sex drive and poor expression of sexuality.